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Episode Overview
Vienna Pharaon of Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy joins Jen and Annie to talk about a common challenge encountered within the Balance365 and Healthy Habits Happy Moms community, learning how to bring needs forward and open the lines of communication in our relationships. Asking for and receiving support are valuable skills for self-care and Vienna helps navigate the difficult but rewarding conversations to help get you there.
What you’ll hear on this episode
- Cultivating the self-worth required to ask for what you need
- Examining our family systems and how their patterns contribute to our beliefs about our needs being able to be met
- Tapping into the stories we tell ourselves about our own self-worth
- The difference between being injured and hurt
- Couples therapy and why people wait until it’s too late
- The stories we tell ourselves about therapy and why they don’t serve us
- Reframing conflict and rethinking how we feel about it
- How the family systems we were raised in impact how we feel about conflict
- Redefining healing
- When unmet need accumulate
- The extent to which we rely on our programming and why we need to take responsibility for what our programming is
- When most programming happens
- Balancing independence and creating a role for your partner in your relationship
- The pendulum swing of independence and dependence
- The exhaustion of trying to do everything ourselves
- Fear of being needy and how it gets in the way of self-advocacy
- Connection vs. Attachment – what’s the difference?
- The role of connection
- Listening vs fixing – communicating from the masculine and the feminine as a spectrum in all of us
- Fear of rejection and how it gets in the way of communicating needs
- Creating a two-way street for both partners to have needs
- Unpacking our resistance to hearing our partner’s needs
- A community for men like ours
- An exciting, intimate couples retreat in paradise
Resources
- Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy website
- Episode 12: Talking to Your Partner About Your Body & Health with Connor Beaton
- Vienna’s Instagram
- ManTalks Community
- The Best Couples Retreat
Transcript
Download a copy of this episode’s transcript here.
